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Welcome to Episode 206 of the Salsa Kings LIVE podcast
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Intro:
Hey Familia, it’s Pablo here. Today, I want to share what we talked about in Episode 206 of the Salsa Kings Podcast. The name of this episode is “Selfish Equals Fun.” We talked about why having fun on the dance floor sometimes means focusing on yourself first. This can actually help you and your partner enjoy the dance more. It might sound weird, but it makes a big difference. Let me tell you what we shared.
Key Points:
• What “Selfish Equals Fun” Means
- Sometimes, when you dance, you worry too much if the other person is having fun.
- You ask yourself, “Do they like dancing with me? Are they bored?”
- This makes you forget to enjoy the dance.
- When you focus on having fun yourself, the dance gets more fun for the other person too.
- It’s like the saying: “Fill up your own cup first.”
• Getting Stuck in a Plateau
- A plateau is when you feel stuck, like you’re not getting better.
- I said I’m in a mental plateau right now even though I’ve been dancing for years.
- It can make you feel down, but it’s normal.
- You can get through it by changing your mindset.
• Why Caring Too Much Hurts Your Fun
- Being kind and careful is good.
- But if you worry too much, it stops you from enjoying the moment.
- You should care—but not at the cost of your own joy.
- You can take care of your partner and still have fun too.
• Being Yourself When You Dance
- When you try to make everybody happy, all your dances start to feel the same.
- I said I sometimes force a smile even if I’m not having fun.
- Now, I’m trying to dance how I want to dance, even if I look weird.
- Some people love it, some think I’m crazy—but it’s always different, and that’s fun.
• The Power of Presence
- Andres taught me about “presence.”
- That means paying full attention to what’s happening right now.
- When you’re fully present, the dance becomes alive again.
- It works in the gym too—try doing cardio and staying focused the whole time. Hard but worth it.
• Dance Is a Shared Experience
- Dance is like teamwork.
- The leader and the follower bring different things to the dance.
- The leader mostly brings the strong, bold moves.
- The follower adds softness and flow.
- Together, they express the music better than alone.
• Taking Advantage of the Moment
- You already do the work—your timing, your frame, your safety.
- Now enjoy the benefits of dancing.
- It’s like cooking food—don’t make it and forget to eat it.
- Being grateful and having fun isn’t selfish in a bad way.
- It helps both people love the dance more.
Closing Thoughts:
So the big lesson is this: if you’re already doing the work, let yourself enjoy it. Don’t forget the advantages. You’re dancing, man. That’s something to smile about. Dance for yourself and the fun that comes from inside you. When you do that, your partner feels it too.
Before we ended, we talked about the Miami Salsa Cruise coming up. Seven days, live music every night, amazing locations like Jamaica and Mexico. We’re hyped and getting ready to have the best time. It’s another chance to remember—selfish equals fun.
This episode helped me remember that joy starts with me. When I dance from the inside out, every moment feels better. And the people around me feel it too.